Being transgender. 🏳️‍⚧️

Imagine growing up wearing shoes that were a size and a half too small and believing that that’s how shoes were supposed to fit. They hurt, sure, but that’s what you have. You know other people have tried different shoes and seem to be more comfortable and happy. No, that doesn’t make sense. Your shoes are your shoes and nothing you can do will change that. Just standing still makes you miserable so you decide that you would try to loosen the laces and you find a bit of relief. You’re scared because people will tease you for not having your shoes tied properly. You’re afraid but the little bit of comfort and happiness you get from the looser laces encourages you to try on some new shoes that fit better. These new shoes while not perfect still allow you to run and jump and be happy. And you can’t imagine life in the smaller shoes anymore.

Most people will have shoes that always fit perfectly. Some people with shoes that are too small just endure the pain and suffer. Some will loosen the laces but find that the shoes actually fit fine and they don’t have to find a new pair.

Sometimes they loosen the laces out they find a new pair of shoes that fit and the bullies or the cost of a new pair or the lack of support will cause them to take the shots off completely. It’s sad, but without the proper support and knowledge on how to walk with the shoes untied or in the new pair it is easy to lose hope. “I can’t wear the new shoes that I want, but I also can’t go back to the smaller ones.”

I will acknowledge that there are some that move to the larger size and are more uncomfortable than they were before so they try to discourage others from trying on new shoes. “They didn’t work for me so why would they work for you?” But the number of people who regret the new shoes is a very small percentage of people who changed their shoes.

The point that I’m trying to get at is if your shoes fit, that’s fantastic. I wish everyone had comfortable shoes that fit great. If you know that someone is trying new shoes, don’t bully them, instead encourage them if you don’t like the color or style of the shoe just know that your shoes are stylish too. If you think you need to find a new pair of shoes, find yourself a podiatrist and talk to them. They might find that your shoes are the right size and help you wear them better so that they fit right. They might recommend a different style or size.

But at the end of the day, the only one who really knows how your shoes fit is you. Find the shoe that fits, and wear the heck out of them.

I’m very happy that I had the courage to try on some new shoes. They feel wonderful.

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